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28 Lessons in 28 Years

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  1. Stay in touch with your friends and family, dedicate time and effort to them – they’re the ones who love you the most, and will support you in times of need.
  2. It’s not about diets, controlling your intake, or working out like crazy. It’s about finding peace with your body, balancing out your food, and indulging when you want to. Walk as much as you can, and don’t force yourself to do something you hate.
  3. Skincare > Make-up. Instead of hiding, start fixing and caring. It’ll be money well-spent.
  4. Save more than you spend – at least 20%, or even 50% if you can. You’ll need it.
  5. Dedicate time to do something that fills you up, that makes you happy, that gives you purpose. Aim to change lives, or even just one live would be worth it.
  6. Never dry your rayon items, unless you want them shrinking on you.
  7. Floss your teeth every single day, whether you’re drunk, falling asleep or wobbly from working out. You’ll thank me later when you’ve escaped issues like gingivitis.
  8. Maybe it’s time for a manicure detox – your nails are chipping, they’re yellow, and they’re weak. Clean, natural nails are in, and very chic.
  9. If you love bringing your mobile phone to the washroom, get a waterproof cover for it, I shit you not.
  10. Invest in quality items that you 100% love when you wear it on. Leather bag for $500 or that H&M pleather one for $50? You think you’re saving now, but it’ll last you longer and go the distance.
  11. Put aside money to travel – see the world, immerse yourself in a different culture and lifestyle, take time to appreciate even the simplest of things. Learn, grow, accept, change.
  12. Distance will never ruin your relationship with your sister. It’ll make it stronger.
  13. It’s tough being a grown-up – from housing loans and payments, to car loans and payments, to planning for your retirement, to worrying about how to handle a work issue.
  14. Take it in stride, and always respond gracefully. (Or do your best. I can’t cure my road rage just yet.)
  15. Just do it. If it feels right, just do it. If you want to do it, but are terrified, just do it. There is no shame in failing, only regret in not trying.
  16. Quit your weighing scale. Stop counting calories. You are more than a number, and that includes your age.
  17. Know your worth. Stop dating guys who aren’t emotionally available and who only need you as temporary solace. Staying single beats getting your heart shattered.
  18. You don’t need sky high heels to look good – flats can do the same job. Plus, you’ll be able to walk further, without blisters, and without hurting your ankles and calves. You won’t be in pain either!
  19. Water nourishes you, and your body needs it. Guzzle as much as you possibly can in a day.
  20. Only respond to emails and text messages immediately if you want to. If not, sit on it and craft up a better response. Just because technology allows instant replies, doesn’t mean you have to do it.
  21. Screw fashion rules. Wear what you want, as long as it makes you happy. There are no rules, except maybe tights are NOT pants.
  22. Love, love, love – always pick love.
  23. No more “-plated” jewellery, I mean it! Only purchase full silver, gold, rose gold, stainless steel – anything – or you’ll end up with a rash, and a ton of wasted money.
  24. Be honest, be honorable. Don’t profit at the expense of another person.
  25. Lip balm is your best friend, especially when in cold climates. Don’t smile without lip balm on or your lips are bound to crack – mega ouch.
  26. Self-improve, educate yourself – there are a ton of free resources out there. You can never learn enough.
  27. Try something new, even if it’s just for once. It’ll be an experience you’ll never forget.
  28. Share your stories, your lessons, your life. There’ll be someone who can learn from it and find solace in it.

Starting 2015 with Contemplations

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A new year usually starts with revelations, new dreams, fresh ideas, energetic beginnings – that was how my 2015 begun, but it then progressed into a tangled ball of questions, questions, and more questions. To say that the year has started off with a bang would be an understatement, and everything has left me dumbfounded, confused and just extremely contemplative.

I fell off the face of KateEatsCake since my unforgettable trip to Seoul. Why? It was in November 2014 when I realized that I had forgotten the importance of staying true to myself. This space had turned into a burden for me – I constantly wondered if anyone was reading my content, questioning if my musings were good enough for other people. After much internal turmoil, I finally recalled how freedom to write really felt – when external judgment didn’t matter, as long as you put yourself out there. It used to feel good even when I received only one comment from a reader whom my words had connected with. That was what I had missed, and that is what I will return to.

That was one of the things I spent time thinking about during the past 2 weeks, on top of many other questions. These last 2 weeks were used to self-reflect and bask in being uncomfortable, questioning what my future would look like, and the direction I had led myself towards in the present. I started to ask what my core genius was, and where my heart was at.

Two weeks ago, my business partner (and dear friend) had decidedly rather suddenly that this was not what she wanted to do anymore. This partnership that had dictated most, if not all, of my life choices for the past 5 years was to end, and I had no idea where or how to start. It’s easier said that done when you tell someone to move on, and that’s exactly how I felt and still feel. With both our personal and professional lives intertwined, I’d be lying if I told you it didn’t feel like a break-up, and even betrayal. I started to wonder if all my past sacrifices were worth it, and where it had all gone wrong. I’m still coming to terms with it, but I am proud of myself and how I’ve handled it — we are still friends, we speak on a daily basis, and still at least once a week. (It’s been 2 weeks, so I’m not sure how much change can occur within such a short time frame.)

If this were a romantic break-up, it might have been easier because things could have turned ugly, and you would never have to see the other person again. You could remove them from your life, step by step, and create a reality without them. I didn’t have that option here, for I love my friend too dearly and can’t imagine a reality without her. Sometimes life throws you a punch in the stomach, and all you can do is deal with it and stand up should you fall.

My takeaway from this so far? Chill out, breathe deep, mourn if you have to, but keep your spirits strong. Surround yourself with love, love and more love, and then throw in tons of positivity. Take it step by step, write everything you need to do down (because your emotions can cause you to forget), then take all the time you need to figure out your next steps. Write all your options down, tell yourself what your worst and best case scenarios are (worst case scenarios, in reality, are really never that bad). Keep your heart firmly in your chest, and if you ever feel like you need to scream, cry or just curl up into a ball, stay home and let it all out.

That’s my update for January 2015. Oh, and I got myself an adorable car, which has made life only so much better – thanks Dad. We’re halfway through February now, and it took me 2 weeks to gather my thoughts and put myself back out here.

How was your January 2015? Tell me it was better than mine, please!

Too Fast & Blurred

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When the days pass so fast, when they’ll filled with only work, close friends and love, when I can hardly stop to catch a breather and end up ill in bed – that’s how my life has been for the past couple of weeks. Even with all the work though, I’m still living the days filled with thanks – thankful and lucky to be running things our way, to work from home and have the flexibility to rest when I want to. Grateful that the pace has picked up as well -I’d rather be worked to the bone than to not have anything to work for.

My days have been filled with the vast sky, clouds, wild flowers, and endless walking. I find myself walking from one destination to the next, and albeit the ache-inducing weight of my laptop that I carry on my shoulder, I find it heartening when a voice inside of me tells me to press on, and that I will not regret this when I am older. I guess I’m lucky to still be quite childlike, a word that was used to describe me by J. Childlike to still enjoy the little details in life, to always be hopeful for the best, to still be able to pick myself up eventually after a long week of work. It’s not to say that I don’t have my moments of darkness, when my heart is filled with a sense of futility and as though nothing will ever work out – yes, I sometimes get so overwhelmed that I can’t bear the thought of carrying on.

The secret to this though, is getting through those moments of darkness, and realizing that there are wonders to live for, beauty to admire, and so much hope and positivity around us. Even if you’re being unfairly judged or criticized, even if you’re surrounded by so much negativity that your body physically breaks down (yes, me), you get back up and keep going. You persevere and remind yourself of why you chose this path, and you envision the light at the end of the tunnel. My light at the end of the tunnel is my three week trip to Busan/Seoul in less than a month, and there’s going to be so much to share!

Not a regular post of mine, but I thought I’d share my reflections of the past couple of weeks, as a personal reminder and hopefully one for you as well. Remember the good, remember hope, remember beauty. To a September filled with love, laughter, friends, jokes, and plenty of adventures and lessons to be learnt.

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